One of the outcomes of verbal bullying is a serious hesitancy, a lack of self-worth, an absence of personal confidence.
One of my goals for this year is to work towards instilling some of that in him.
As a Christian I believe very firmly that our self-worth must first of all come from a God who made us and loves us. A God who sent His Son to earth to take away our sin and make us holy, His chosen children. Anything less than this is like a bandaid on a gaping wound…
This morning we read and talked about a wonderful book book by Max Lucado called You are Special.
This book talks about a fictional people called the Wemmicks, who stick stars and dots on each other… using their words and actions to make some proud and others feel worthless. One poor Wemmick is covered in dots until he meets a girl who has neither stars or spots and she sends Him to meet Eli… this is a wonderful book. I cannot read it without a quaver in my voice at some points… we do indeed have a wonderful Creator who loves us beyond words.
I also picked up another couple of books we’ve been working through a little at a time.
We’ve got the younger one of this book and so far I’d be glad to recommend it. The topics addressed are covered in 6 main categories…
2. My image
5. Making and Keeping Friends
6. Getting along with others
All these topics are broken down into activities which allow good discussion and have helpful teacher notes.
Again, we’ve got a younger version. The topics covered include
1. What is bullying
2. Forms of bullying
4. Targets of bullying
5. Effects of bullying
6. Who bullies and why?
7. Dealing with bullying
8. Preventing bullying.
Again, worksheets with lots of helpful discussion opportunities.
We really must work hard to defend against bullying in our society, both in children and adults. Human nature says bullies will always exist, but as bystanders we need to be empowered to speak up and protect those amongst us who are targets. We must give our children skills and strategies for targeting bullying, but we must also be prepared to make hard decisions to protect them if needed.
As a mother I have always believed that no one will advocate for my child as well as I will. Sometimes that means being equipped, being smart, and having the teeth of a tiger…